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"Between You and Me" Never "Between You and I" (Grammar Lesson)

The Quick Answer
Between you and I might sound scholarly, but it is always wrong.

You must say between you and me.

Between you and I is wrong because the word I cannot be the object of a preposition. (NB: The word between is a preposition.)

"Between You and I" or "Between You and Me"?

The term between you and I is always wrong.

Why is Between You and I Wrong?

The word between is a preposition. A preposition sits before a noun or a pronoun to show its relationship to something else in the sentence. The noun or pronoun after a preposition is called the object of the preposition. The object of a preposition is always in the objective case. The word "I" is in the subjective case. Therefore, it cannot be the object of a preposition.
Use me not I after between.
  • Between you and I, it's a farce.
  • Between you and me, it's a farce.

Between You and I Is Always Wrong

between you and I me
Between you and I is always wrong.

Pronouns in the Subjective and Objective Cases

Here is a list of the personal pronouns in their pure state (the subjective case) and their oblique state (the objective case).

Subjective CaseObjective Case
IMe
YouYou
He / She / ItHim / Her / It
WeUs
YouYou
TheyThem
WhoWhom


Just to reiterate, pronouns after prepositions must be in the objective case. You cannot keep them in the subjective case. Therefore, saying between you and I is as bad as saying with we, by they, or to she. (Obviously, these should be with us, by them, and to her.)
Beware

But It Sounds Better

Between you and I sounds right to lots of native English speakers. For many, it feels more scholarly than between you and me. That's no excuse though. It's wrong.

Trying to use words that sound more scholarly causes other errors too. The most notable one is when people use myself instead of me. For example:
  • Contact either myself or your manager.
  • Contact either me or your manager.
Read more about using me and myself.