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Can or May?

What Is the Difference between "Can" and "May"?

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"Can" and "may" are both used to ask for permission, but this has not always been the case. In the past, there was a clear distinction between "can" and "may." "Can" was used for ability (e.g., Can you swim?), and "may" was used for permission (e.g., May I swim in your lake?).

As this distinction is still observed by some, the following guidance is appropriate:

May for Permission

In a polite or formal setting, use "may" for permission. For example:
  • May she swim in your pool?
  • (This means "Is she permitted to swim in your pool?" It sounds polite.)

Can for Permission

In an informal setting, it is safe to use "can" for permission. For example:
  • Can she swim in your pool?
  • (This means the same as the one above. It sounds neutral as opposed to polite.)

Can for Ability

Use "can" for ability. For example:
  • Can she swim?
  • (Is she able to swim?)
  • Can she do quadratic equations?
  • (Is she able to do quadratic equations?)
You cannot use "may" to express ability.

More about "Can"

The word "can" is a modal auxiliary verb used to express ability. For example:
  • I can whistle. correct tick
  • (I have the ability to whistle.)
  • Can he lift 150 kgs? correct tick
  • (Does he have the ability to lift 150 kgs?)
"Can" can also be used to express permission. For example:
  • You can stroke the ponies but not goats. correct tick
  • (Here, "can" expresses permission. "Can" tends to be used for permission among friends or in an informal setting.)

More about "May"

The word "may" is a modal auxiliary verb used to denote permission. For example:
  • You can swim in this river. correct tick
  • (You are allowed to swim in this river.)
  • May I have a biscuit? correct tick
  • (Am I permitted to have a biscuit?)
If you have a reason to be "über correct" (e.g., you're hosting royalty or a very pedantic grandparent), you should use "may" and not "can" to express permission. It is true to say that "may" and "can" are interchangeable to express permission nowadays.

A Quick Joke

This joke plays on the idea that "can" and "may" were not always interchangeable to express permission:
can or may?
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This page was written by Craig Shrives.

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